I was listening in to Class 95 last night.Dont laugh just cos I listen to class 95.Its quite a cool station.Anyway,there was this sms segment where the Dj was supposed to offer advice on relationship problems.A listener sent in some advice in response to the topic as to whether this lady should move in with her boyfriend.The listeners response was that the lady should move in,otherwise she would not know if she can tolerate her boyfriend's habits.

I seriously wonder what kind of advice that is.If she moves in with her boyfriend and finds that she cannot tolerate her boyfriends bad habits,is she going to break up with him?Many people see cohabitation as a trial marriage.There is no such thing as a trial marriage.You should either be ready to commit to wanting to spend your whole life together with the person you claim to love or you are not ready at all.There is no such thing as seeing if living together will work out.As long as any 2 humans live together there will always be problems because that is plain human nature.Everyone will have their own bad habits,their own pet peeves,their own style of doing things.It might not agree with the other person they are living with but if you claim to love someone,you put up with his/her bad habits because of your love for him/her.Trial marriages are rubbish.How many trials are we going to go through before we find someone that we think we can live with for the rest of our lives?To find a partner is bliss,because love is a many splendid thing.But are many of us able to grasp the true meaning of love?I do not profess to be able to grasp the true meaning of it.But love isnt a fairy tale.Love is going through the thick and thin and being able to love when the other person is unlovely.Marriage definitely isnt a happily ever after.Its enjoying each other for the rest of your life regardless the flaws.